I want to share something that has somewhat confused me, but also concerned me a little bit.
As a lot of people know, Nathan broke up with me a little more than week ago, and when he did a flood of people approached me with the usual ‘aw are you ok?’ response. When I replied to each of them that I was fine and it wasn’ t a bad break up, people seemed to be fluffed with what I said.
In response, I got an array of different things from ‘well thats good’ to ‘no, its ok, i know your pissed. you can let it out’.
It seemed that people were shocked that I wasn’t hating or bitching towards Nathan. In fact, I had more than a couple of people start bitching about their ex, and then ask me if Nathan did anything wrong.
This in itself didn’t concern me much, but something Nathan said on Tuesday night when I saw him again did. He had spoken to one of my friends prior to breaking up with me, which I knew. It seemed that my friend had told him though, that I don’t get emotionaly attached.
huh?
what?
That made me stutter for a little bit. I don’t get emotionally attached? It’s something weird to blog about, and to talk about even with my friends. I don’t show my feelings very well, and I know that. But not become emotionally attached? I don’t think so. I cry at a lot of neighbours episodes, let alone boyfriend breakups.
Nathan said that it shocked me. When he broke up with me, we hugged and I cried, and he felt bad. He (and I) know that he’s done the right thing, but I cried alot. I certainly did have attachments to Nathan! I doubt anyone can be in a relationship for over 2 months and not.
But it got me thinking. Do people see me as a negative person? I got speaking with Nathan on this topic, because he has said that I should quit being so nice- on a number of occasions. He also mentioed that he was waiting to hear on the grapevine that I had been bitching about him- because he had been told that that was what I was like (after breaking up with me).
Well, I think to start that it is a good sign, that he confessed he was suprised to see that I hadn’t said a single negative thing about him or our relationship; and that it was a good thing.
But I still am a little concerned at peoples views on me.
I’m not always 100% Mister Nice, and I can definately be abitch when the time calls for it. But I think that, on average, I’m pretty nice. Maybe even more towards the ‘nice’ end of the scale compared to alot of people I know.
Am I a nice person?
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I think you ARE a nice person. But why do you care so much what other people think?
Just be happy for who and what you are, and people will like you.
Kudos to you on not bitching about your ex. Why should you?
When we end a relationship, it’s not easy to see the positive points of the person who has often caused our hurt or anger.
You’re special.